E- tip No. 64 – What are you putting up with?

An object at rest tends to stay at rest and an object in motion tends to stay in motion (Newton’s 1st law)

I used to suggest to clients a simple way to get rid of the stuff they put up with in work or life by asking them to write a list of things they tolerated. From people to relationships to broken items to activities they hated to stuff they never got around too, and whilst it was there is was draining energy out of them and sometimes all consuming and overwhelming and a great way to procrastinate.

Then to get rid of them, I used to say pick off the list and tackle 2 minor ones and one major one each month, replacing completed items with new ones off the list. Because once you start it takes on its own momentum and your energy levels go up and you can then spend more time on the stuff you love to do instead. Pretty great so far.

And then it occurred to me last night on a way this could be greatly improved using the power of the mind to go towards goals unconsciously:
For each ‘toleration’ : how would I prefer it to be?
So for example:
· Tidying up my paperwork becomes having everything filed away so it’s readily accessible
· Doing the washing and ironing becomes having a cupboard full of clothes ready to wear
· Rude and difficult clients becomes having clients that are a pleasure to work with and appreciate me for what I do for them
· Tackling a difficult relationship becomes surrounding myself with people who are a joy to be with

You get the idea – get rid of the tolerance and then decide how you prefer it to be thereafter and the brain will naturally go towards that, without you having to think about it! And it may not happen instantly although it can and over time you’ll notice the shift into how you prefer it to be.

Today’s experiment
· Take a piece of paper and drawn a line down the middle making two columns. At the top of the left column write: What am I tolerating? and write your list, however small or petty or huge and insurmountable
· Then at the top of the right hand side, write: And how would I prefer it to be? And for each toleration state how you’d prefer it to be, stating it in the present as above
· Then pick one major and 2 minor ones off the list and tackle those, within a month. And once completed pick the next major/minor ones off the list and tackle those until the list disappears and you’re moving towards how you’d prefer it to be

I did this today and came up with 2 pages of stuff! And just writing it down brought my mind into focus instantly and started the momentum

Until we meet,

Anthony

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